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On-line Dating: 3 Ways to Make it Easier to Find a Great Partner

Posted by: Karen Blanchard

I’ve heard people say on-line dating can be tough… I think it’s a special kind of torture.

Are you having trouble finding good quality people on-line?  You’ve been on 2 or 3 dating sites for months even years with no avail.

You get lots of conversations started but don’t know how to carry the conversation forward to gather much needed information to close the deal?

You’re so frustrated you want to pull out your hair and wonder why you are wasting your time?

Does any of these sound familiar to you?

I have been here three different times, the first 2 times I thought was torture, the last time was a success.

I did my profile great, new what I wanted, could filter through the red flags.  It was extremely successful, it only took me 2 days to find “the one”.

So, I want to share those tips with you to make the process a bit easier.  Now, I do want to preference that I’m talking to people who want to find a relationship and not just go on dates or just wants to connect with someone for a night.

There are three parts to on-line dating and I will go into some detail on each one.

  1. Your profile.  Does it grab immediate attention?  Your profile picture gives you 7 seconds to make a good first impression, to see if people are interested in moving onto your interests and about me section.  Is it accurate and up to date, can your face be seen easily?

Show people how you are don’t tell them.  If you say you have humor write profile with some humor and tell a              story.  Don’t make your about me section sound like a boring resume.

Spend 80% of your profile talking about yourself.  People browsing your profile are trying to picture you in                  their life, so they need to know about you.  Keep your profile positive. Let your personality shine through your              writing.

  1. Know what you want and what you are looking for. This will take some deep diving inside your emotional walls.  What do you like to do? How do you want to be treated and be specific?  Just saying I want to be treated right isn’t good enough.  What does that mean for you?  You won’t necessarily be putting all of this on your profile, but you do need to be specific and know for when you go on dates.  It keeps you focused, and you won’t waste your time.
  2. Now you have some connections, how do you communicate with them? Communication is more difficult on line but knowing how to ask questions and direct a conversation you will be the master of on-line dating and will soon be able to hide your profile.

Remember, communication here is information gathering to see if you are a great match and to go further to a             coffee/dinner date.

One of the best compliments I received the most recent time I was on the dating site was “you carry a great conversation and I’m impressed how you direct the conversation”

The biggest secret to the success of on-line dating and dating period is to have fun, relax and don’t waste your  time on those who are not a good fit for you.

 

I’m curious … do you struggle with on-line dating?

The good news … you don’t have to stay stuck in the on-line pool of misery.

I’d be happy to talk with you and see if my one-on-one coaching program works for you.

 

Karen Blanchard

Divorce and death suck! Period! It’s not a secret that being separated/divorced or dealing with the loss of a loved one takes a tole on a persons physical, emotional, mental, financial, social and self care needs. But the transition from overwhelm, despair, rejection, anger, betrayal and a host of other roller coaster of emotions can be done, in a healthy, productive manner. There is hope to recover from all this and learn the skills needed to open yourself up to new people and new relationships that could bring you such joy and happiness into your life once again. I know this is possible because I've done just that. After my divorce I was transitioning well but not without a lot of work. After the death of my daughter at the age of 17 I thought my life was going to end, and it did as I knew it. I did however, create a new normal and created joy and happiness once again.

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